Maybell, youve ben posting some gret stuff. Im proud i got to know you before you were 25year famous!
i get both parts. For me, I'm have trouble with my feelings, and often have to over analyze things. I'm getting better, but when I am fearful and anxious my brain starts spinning and I have to sort through the thoughts. After talking about it with someone else for a while I usually feel better just understanding better how I feel, why, and having someone else support me and contribute an objective point of view. Particularly when it is about a decision on how to handle a tricky situation with my STBX.
In th beginning I did this obsessively and was taxing to my friends. Maybe I still do this on occasion, but as I've detached, GAL, and tended to my own happiness more, I find myself talking more about those things than the separation.
But I still do this when I need to. Frankly I feel like giving a friend the occasional ear beating is probably better than repressing/medicating somehow. If that's my worst coping mechanism then it's not bad.
Keep it going SS!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
