BD and 6 months later PA confirmed (2)

[Bunches]

So I met with Paralegal today at Lawyers office to get things started. Filled out paperwork to begin D. Lots to do and figure out but shouldn't take that long as I expect uncontested. W has been asking about when D can be worked out every couple months for a year now and going on with A 1 or 2 the whole time.

I decided to begin boundaries to stop going out of my way to make things comfortable for her. I can see now that I was trying to win points and I only lost respect instead. W messaged tonight at S bedtime to see if we could have the family call to talk about S and his day, where she usually unloads about her life to me. I may not have done this well, I'm not very good at thinking DB on the spot. Text conversation went like this:

W: Bedtime?
M: Bedtime was 15 minutes ago...please stop texting at nights. We will see you on Thursday for your visit.
W: What is the problem all of a sudden?
M: I don't see a reason to discuss it with you, you will only lie again. You obviously don't respect me and I don't see why I should continue to go out of my way for you like this every day. I respect myself too much for that.
W: Lie about what?
W: If you're not going to let me talk to him at least tell me why.
M: I shouldn't have to explain. If you were willing to work on trust and respect you would have been honest with me by now.

I don't know if I took too much of a hard line there but she has been comfortable to get me to have group time most days and even share stories with me that she has been staying away from men puruing her for months while keeping in the dark that she had OM2 A and back now with OM1 A all in the last 6 months. I believe I've given the gentle and understanding approach more than enough time. Its time to change tactics and scorecard what happens. I'm sure I will get negative kickback for now. But maybe the lies will stop when I stop letting her get away with them.

Thoughts?