Hi yes I am and I have an update. Heard from WAW. Late last year we had made arrangements for a mutual friend to fly in and visit some sites he's always wanted to see. Well then the divorce bomb came and the last 6 months transpired but his trip was already planned. He lives in Alabama and since the WAW moved to Florida her and her friend visited him down there. So anyway he came up and I showed him around. Well after he left WAW texted me and thanked me for keeping my promise to her and taking him. Well while he was here he told me that WAW was telling him on the phone that she was unhappy. This really rubbed me the wrong way so I told WAW that it unnerves me that she was telling everyone but me that she was unhappy in our marriage so I could've fixed things before it was too late. Well we didnt argue but we did have a lengthy discussion which ended once again with me telling her that we should just not talk because we keep having the same coversation over and over again.
She said shes afraid of the past and afraid of the future. She said shes was a wreck over the weekend our friend wad here because she knew how hard it would be for me to take him to places WAW and I would always go together. She said that she has to believe if we are truly meant for each other that she needs to let God lead us back to each other. She said that she believes that we will find each other again if its meant to be. She said I'm in Florida not Siberia. She said shes still a mess and that she realizes now that if she didnt allow herself to be manipulated and used by OM that things might've turned our different. She said she was sorry. I told her we are beyond apologies at this point as they've already been made weeks ago. We ended the conversation with me telling her that all these people she confided in should've had enough sense to tell her to talk to her husband as opposed to letting her run off with the junkie scumbag. Then we agreed we should just resume silence between us.
The convo was over text for a couple days. I last spoke to her October 28. So thats my update...the condensed version but most of what we talked about was stuff she's said a gazillion times before...I need to do this for me...I need to stay in my safe haven and let the dust settle...if I had come back to you you would've looked like a chump to OM and I wouldn't allow that...etc etc.
I will keep updating you all as things unfold. But it was a contact initiated by her. I hope everyone here is well!!
Last edited by ItHurts; 11/05/1405:07 AM.
ME: 43 W:44 M 13 years on 5-5-01 T 18 years BD 4/27/14 D papers served 5/5/14 (how appropriate a date) WAW moved out 5/12/14 Papers filed 6/27/14 Divorce granted 07/17/14 Our marriage ends 11/17/14