Always appreciate your insight. I agree, I'm pretty close to making a similar decision to you. It's hard though, but I'm really seeing my options. Bottom like for me, the OM is still present. Everything stops at that, not because he's the main problem, but more because his prescence prevents successful R MC.
As a follow up to her anger yesterday, I noticed when I went to put on my socks today, the drawer was filled with things that meant things to me, like cards from her for anniversaries, her wedding tiara, and she put info on grieving together after a miscarriage and some other things in the drawer. She destroyed them all after she ransacked my room while I was at MC. The tiara was bent and crumpled, cards she gave me shredded, and she was clearly angry.
It was sad for me to see, especially the miscarriage information. I wish that we had done counselling after that. It's tough to go through, but I think it definitely was a big factor in our M demise. It occurred in October of 2012.
So my choices are I change the locks to prevent this kind of behavior, or I contact my lawyer, which I have already done to determine legally what I can do, and start my divorce proceedings.
So I never like to act without thinking, or rashly, and I realize it's important to acknowledge what she has done. I returned her rings as she had requested. No point on fighting that as it is the law where I am. I realize there is a lot of pain in everything she shredded and put in the drawer. Each of the items in there represented some things she really resented about our M. So this is a good time for validation, but I wrestle with which tact to use.
Fortunately, I have time because I'm currently blocked. I need to think.
