Wife Is Continuing Affair-When Do I Start LRT?-V

[PeterV2]

I slipped up and responded that I could never trust her again, so we are all good.....not a smart thing to say at the time.

Agreed, not a smart thing to say. And not necessarily true either. Perhaps more accurate would have been to say, "I'm having great difficulty trusting you at this time, but if we were to work on the trust issue it would be good to see our mutual trust increase to a point where it was in the past."

Yeah, I know it would still have fallen on deaf ears at this point.

My WAW actually once called our MC who had to transmit the message to me not to contact my W. That sentiment didn't last long and she was contacting me again within a day.

Don't give up hope. True, the days are dark and the night may be long. When the sun rises again on your new day, no one knows how the two of you will see each other. Hopefully some civil discourse in the interim can pave the way to less contentious interchanges: you two have a bad habit of strife - she jabs, you respond. Try figuring out a way to avoid that cheeseless tunnel. Maybe there's a way to engage her that she doesn't expect.

Maybe when she says it's over, agree with her. Yes it is over. The marriage you had is over. Face it. The only way through this is to build a new marriage. And that starts from scratch.

Whether you're willing or interested to start from scratch with her is another thing. But as you say: keep the dream alive.

I too have reached a point recently where I'm questioning whether to pack it in or not. But I think my sitch is still too fluid for me to make a call like that. It's been almost a year since my W moved out and over a year since we've ML (except for a couple of errant sexual episodes which don't in my mind qualify as ML.

Still, Dev. Hang in there. You've done yourself proud.