Win! You had a bunch of horrible days in a row, right? I've been waiting to hear that from you
I love the way your mind works. I identify with it. You have a problem, and you want to FIX it and get things moving. I am the same way. At first after BD, when I discovered the books on EN's, LL's, etc, my eyes were wide open to why our M fell apart, and I was excited to FIX it. That was before I realized that the begging and pleading to let me fix it were falling on deaf ears (thank you, DB). Then I was floundering for a while, like you have been lately. I had all of this new knowledge and a plan, but no partner to execute it with. I didn't know what to do. But once I did what UR is talking about here (focusing on myself, realizing that I have control over my life), suddenly I did have something I could make a plan for an execute the plan - ME!
I do think self-improvement should be part of your plan. But that should not be your entire plan. It should be your plan for how to live now, not just how to improve how you will live in the future. I am working on listening and understanding before speaking, I am working on being more emotionally intelligent at all times throughout my day, whether it is with a loved one or a colleague. But I am also trying to enjoy every moment I have with D2 and to guide her with love. I am learning to dance. I have recently started enjoying jazz, so I've found some free jazz shows to attend, and I'm learning a little of it on the piano. I am planning a trip to the west coast (LA!) to visit my sister this spring (she will be moving there as part of her traveling nursing program). I am planning a ski road trip with people from work.
What's your plan for living right now, Ss? Trip to Langley, WA with D7?
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
