I agree with the whole "best actress/actor" thing. In my reflections I certainly realize that i got a bit lazy with some things and took our marriage for granted - that because he said he had married me, we'd just always be married even if things seemed dull or i wasn't being myself. I've learned that all relationships, not just marriage are always growing and you have to be putting energy into it.
One of our issues was difference in sex drive. After a doctor's appointment today i found I have need of a cream to regulate certain good bacteria in my vaginal area - I knew something was up, but my mistake was not realizing earlier and just thinking "this is my sex drive and he has to just understand" I can;t imagine how lonely he must have felt...how unwanted. I know this isn't the only thing that led to this point, but I should have stepped up and admitted I needed help.
One thing you metion about being or not being "broken" It's odd - he says neither of us are "broken" that there is nothing to fix. He just goes back to the "no natural chemistry" point. He says he cares about me and loves me (as you say the whole different love thing) and wants to be bale to stay friends. He doesn't realize we are - we're best friends who both let a long, beautiful relationship get dull.
I know it may take a long time, but I agree. It is worth it. We ended up not talking today, he literally said "let's hold off for today but we definitely need to talk later this week"
Not sure what to think. I keep swinging between panicking and expecting the worst possible news to getting super hopeful that he has at least decided to work on us... I would be happy with a small baby step...that's all....
