Hey Kira, Just to give you some small taste of some of the weird stuff that you may hear...my W and I had been together for 25 years, M for 21. I have heard that she has never loved me in that time, she was "pretending" (must be the world's best actress!), that she loves me but "..there are many kinds of love..", just don't feel the romantic feelings, that because she didn't miss me when she went away for a week for work, that MUST mean that she doesn't love me anymore, I have been accused of hiding things from her that I didn't, and when many of the things she said she thought were true were proven not to be, she said she HAD to leave a 21 year M and break up a family because "I can't stand the way you chew your food".
One thing you will learn this isn't something YOU "caused". You didn't break them...but that also means you can't fix them either. They are unhappy, they have issues that from the past that they need to work through but instead they blame the person closest to them. Many times they become the exact opposite person they were before. If they went to church reg., they will stop going. If they were tea toddlers they begin to drink. Most start losing friends from the past and find new people who are unlike anyone they ever would have hung out with in the past. They are searching for a way out of the inner turmoil they are feeling. There are H/W's who were great, involved moms/Dad's that stop caring about the kids.
There is a script that most follow but each one's journey is unique. If I had a buck for all the times that some else on the board posted, word for word something off the wall that my W has said I'd be rich. But each person's issues are theirs and theirs alone and vary.
Just be ready for the long haul here. It was be fast and it won't be easy but so worth it!
