Hi T2, This is what I've been considering.(Maybe selling the house once D is final) Keeping the house seems to be more important to D19 than D14. At this point D14 has been getting into being social with her new friends at her new school. This has been her coping mech. it seems. She tells me how her mom doesn't come home until late every night but that since when she is there she can walk to many of her friends homes and there are places where she can meet up with them she is enjoying the freedom. Of course, that's not good for her either as it's a bit too much of no one knowing where she is heading after school when she's with her mom. I have talked to her about selling the house and moving closer to her and her school and she seems OK with that. She's only 14 and she has been talking about wanting to be able to drive "soon" and how she doesn't need any adults around. She is trying to grow up faster now.
As for my D19, she is upset as she moved north and her mom has really stopped almost all interaction with her. She calls and we talk for 1/2 hour or more and she has told me when she calls her mom, she won't spend more than a couple min's on the phone every time and tells her she has to go. W has been trying to get D19 to move in with her but D19 wants no part of that. She wouldn't even have her own room and she gets angry that her mom is trying to tell her how to live her life and she see's her mom as not even knowing how to live HER life, let alone tell her how she should be living! D19 is a lot angrier at her mom than D14. D14 has said how she's "used" to her mom not doing anything with her and not being around. I think D19 wants to know that she has a place (other than with her mom) to go if she needs to. She is living with her boyfriend and they don't have much money and she's starting to see less of a future with him. The problem is if she lives with me she would need a car to get ANY job or go to college which she is planning on doing next year. I can't help her with that right now as I can barely make ends meet. I think this scares her. She wants that tie to her old life as she still has her room at home and has more stuff there then where she's living now!
So much depends on me getting a good job where I can make at least close to what I have been up until I started at this new job with a startup company. This has to be my first priority!
