Carlotta, I have a question for you and I hope it doesn't come off the wrong way...but you first state that you were dumped from what you thought was a "wonderful marriage", and then you go on to detail all the reasons why it wasn't satisfying to you. What gives?
Is it possible that you DID hear your husband's complaints about sex and passion but just did not place the same importance on them (understandably) and therefore missed the boat? It is obvious that he missed the boat in many other ways, but I think that you are setting yourself up for a recap of this situation, in your next R, if you continue to say that it was all "unbeknownst" to you.
