Hi Kira,
Sorry you have to be here but you came to the right place. MLC is about dealing with "life changes" and can hit early or later. Buying the house was probably a big one for him. Get used to the "We never..." statements. It's part of the MLC script. Most of us on here have heard things like "I never really loved you, even the day we were M..." and this after 20 + years of M!

Cadet should be by soon with some things that you will need to read and study. Do this work, it's important and will give you a better idea of what you are facing.

Good luck, Kira. You will find many great people willing to help any way they can on the board!