I would also get them in to counseling. In our district the school guidance counselor has been a tremendous resource, so if you have one that's a good place to start.
I second this. My D12 is going to see her school counselor today. I have suggested to S19 that he make use of his college's resources in this department. D16 is not interested yet, she's still pretty angry. But I hope to get her into counseling sometime.
