This is what I meant when I said maybe your H needed an opening.
My H is very much an "Acts of Service" and "Words of Affirmation" guy.
So even though we are separated, I am servicing and affirming my butt off...
(With NO EXPECTATIONS, of course! )
I realized that in the past neither of us had spoken the other's Love Language very well. I take the hit on that one.
However, I did ASK my H to help fill my love tank in very specific ways, which he refused to do. On his end, he got resentful that I wasn't able to read his mind.
Although I can blame myself for not understanding this relationship dynamic sooner, I did show my love for him in many other ways, including Acts and Words. I just never realized a man could need so much external validation, because i sure don't!
Still, I don't think that my behavior was grounds to cheat on me and file for divorce.
Anyhow, I'm rambling. I'm glad you sent a note that was heartfelt and positive. Your H has been through a lot in the M, though that doesn't excuse his behavior, and it probably is a warm fuzzy towards you that you recognize and appreciate that.
And yes--maybe a little crack is appearing. Time will tell!
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Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
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