This will be important for us to remember when comes time for forgiveness. Part of me is livid that she could go out of the R to be with an OM. If we ever get back together, I want her to know that this was her last chance ever to do this (she briefly cheated 5 years ago). But to expect her to stay in a bad relationship and decline all her opportunities for a better life makes no sense. I need to forgive her because in many ways I pushed her towards the OM by not treating her right, by leaving her love tank empty and ignoring her pleas to talk. Right now, it doesn't matter what her responsibilities are: I need to work on my side and accept my responsibility. This is the only way to my goal.
