My W didn't know I was proud of her which seems the most absurd thing to everyone who has ever met me. I guess we just don't do a good enough job of telling the person who matters most.
BF told me our relationship had "no affection", which boggles my mind. I'm not sure if he's just choosing to forget it or what, but....I think it's normal for a WAS to see the past differently than the LBS.
It could be that you didn't do something or it could be that it's what they're choosing to see.
I think they choose to dwell on that which was a sore spot with them and revise history to make the entire marriage about that. That takes the focus off of them and puts it squarely on us. Problem with that is just like we own a huge part in why our spouses left, they too own a huge part in their needs not being met. Its a 2 way street no matter which side of house the window is there you're peering in. Both partners own 100% of the issues at hand. It's "joint and several" not "joint and equal".
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3
