Jefe,

The Last Resort Technique:

http://www.divorcebusting.com/blog/how-to-prevent-a-divorce-the-last-resort-technique/

Read and and incorporate what you can. It's not a one-shot deal. It's a posture you take to help wake them up.

Is one of your kids someone else's daughter? (the guy she was texting)? Tell me about that.

How about points 1-5 that I made? For the safety and security of your kids -- please go see a lawyer.

---Alan