1. You caught your wife sexting with someone. Confronted her, she moved out of your house. Sexting OM1 (D&7's bio dad) Noting other than this going on here. I think it stopped immediately.
2. You are caring for your kids, more or less solo. Correct
3. There's an OM in the picture. Possible OM2, not sure the extent.
4. You are trying to romance/pursue her. I guess. Not really sure.
5. You are afraid that upsetting your wife or having boundaries, or confronting, will set you back or have her bolt. Partially true, yes.
Let me read the rest of the post and I'll respond to that separately. Just wanted to tidy up the jist of the sitch.
Me 47 - W 35 M 9 - T 10 2 Daughters - 7 & 9 Discovery of EA- 8/4/14 S - 8/5/15 D mentioned - 9/11/14 R & Piecing - 3/17/15 Regard one another as more important than yourselves. - Philippians 2:3