Heather, I'm glad you didn't get offended by my postings last night. I was very annoyed, not angry, at the disrespectful way that you daughter had treated you. However, I do think you've set some boundaries and I hope that you will not allow the boundaries to go by the wayside. She's old enough to know better and unfortunately, when she's out of control w/her temper, her mouth goes a mile a minute and she does whatever she can to prove her point. This, unfortunately, is a sign that she needs to take some anger management classes. Her anger gets in the way of thinking rationally and let's face it, she most likely knew how your father would react, but she didn't care at that time. Now, that she's cooled down and you've approached her, again, she's acting like she didn't know this or that. Time for your daughter to take control of that anger and put it to good use.
I think you are handling this current situation in a better frame of mind. Tough love doesn't mean you are throwing her to wolves, but you are making her more aware of what an adult is and facing the consequences of her actions. She's going to learn to be responsible and accountable for HER actions and financial debt. She can't do this if you continue to bail her out and make excuses for her.
As for work today, I do hope that things will be okay and you can focus on your work. I know you'll do a great job because writing, etc., is an outlet for you and hopefully keep your mind on other things.
Now, about your father, I would call him and have a heart to heart w/him. Layout everything and don't hold anything back as to what you've struggled w/over the last couple of years. I would be as honest as I can be and go from there. Honesty will set you free.
Take care.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
