Nitty in a Nutshell #2

[Nitty]

Jefe, I am definitely NOT strong. I am weak. But thanks for thinking the best of me, LOL.

You have made such good progress the thing that I was thinking about as I was reading is the MLC stages/tunnels ... not sure if anyone has pointed this out but IMHO your H has come out a bit .. but as predicted he is going back into the tunnel as now he is dealing with the damage he caused ( hence not wanting to face the neighbors) These things are by the book (if there is one for us who deal with the MLC). Regardless ... whatever it is you have handled this ... I admire the fact you have stood up, lovingly placed boundaries and told him .. you need MC to feel safe, I would recommend you continue to put a lid on your hurt for now, there is still a long road ahead of you

Caliguy, I needed that. I focused on those words all last week. I struggled big time. It's hard to put the lid on the hurt, especially when H is reaching out. I don't want to sweep stuff under the rug, I'm afraid we'll get back together again with him thinking we've swept it under that rug and don't have to revisit it again and then it will just smolder inside me.

I don't want to be the LBS who rehashes everything constantly. I just want to clear things up and move on.

I talked with my DB coach, worked out a plan, and we've got another MC appt scheduled, so that's good.

One day at a time.