jim0987 #4 - strengthening my inner cat

[GoatGal]

It is a great list and I think it's totally doable.

It's going to take time, but you keep working on it and it will become second nature.
And I think you're really going to like yourself more if you can embody the qualities you listed above.

And liking yourself more means that other people will like you more, too.

If you feel at ease in your own skin, can be clear in your communications, and not have a hidden agenda, that draws people to you.

Now--would you mind sending that list to my H?
He struggles with exactly those issues. If I thought it would help, I'd give him the NMMNG book.
But as they say around here... "You can't fix him". Neither can I point him in the right direction.
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For what it's worth, I have Asperger's, It's an Autistic Spectrum Disorder, and in my case it's very mild. But it's definitely there.

But nobody I meet would ever suspect it. Because I have LEARNED how to behave, to listen, to empathize more, to control my voice and body movements.

Was it hard? Heck yeah!
But I was motivated. (Having no friends or having people turn away from you when you are being "nice" is a great incentive.)
I struggled from the time I was a small child, but I watched, I learned, I read books on non-verbal communication, social skills... all this before I was diagnosed just a few years ago.

That, aside from being sad, was a real-eye opener. It explained a LOT and gave me a lot of clarity and showed me where I needed to improve.

If I can pass for "normal" and have it feel pretty natural to me at this point, you can change for the better too!


---(G)GGG