Wow, you guys are tough! I feel like I'm already holding back 95% of what I want to say. We have short, cordial communications and I hope to keep it that way. Ignoring her question about whether I'm reluctant to have lunch seemed too much. I told her I "agreed" to lunch and gave her two dates. I did explain that I had replied without alternative dates because I was in a rush though. This might have been too much.
I think there's much in the message from Theoden to Jeffrey that GoatGal pasted (thanks!): while she's with OM, nothing will get through anyway. This being said, I'm definitely not being super-nice to her.
In any case, we resolved both issues and I'm pretty sure she's still slightly upset. She didn't get her birthday weekend and I suspect she had big plans. Funny how the exclamation points and politeness go away when I can't enable her new life. I really had plans made months ago, but I don't feel any guilt for not saving her on that weekend.
She asked for a few things she had left behind so I jumped in to say I had "already thought" of sending her all of her remaining stuff by Friday. I wanted to state some element of initiative on my side, on top of implying that this would be the last such transfer ("think about what you left"). She doesn't react well when she loses control of the process, which seems like a good thing.
Originally Posted By: Zues126
listen to 25. always.
I know! I'm so happy she has taken an interest in my sitch. I have great people advising me here. Thank you!
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"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
