You are doing so many things counter to DB principles there is no real good endgame to this.
No ultimatum's, yet you gave what really does sound like an ultimatum. Do not engage R talks, you keep engaging R talks. Note writing, ML with expectations of where when he sleeps, him hoping for a ride... you leaving him hanging.
You have seemed to have trouble identifying GAL's that are about you.
So you ask: "now what"? I would say you really need to take some time out and start from the beginning. Take a weekend for YOU and reread DB & DR, get back to the basics of those and that can get you going in the right direction.
Me: 43 M: 10y S:15 ILYBINILWY 2/18/13 W moved out 2/18/13 Filed for D: 2/17/13 Got DB: 2/20/13 Got DR: 2/23/13 180 & LRT Began: 2/25/13 D Final Dec '13