We were a very low conflict couple. Our most consistent fights were around sexual intimacy and affection. I often wanted sex but neglected being as affectionate as she needed me to be. I would talk with her about my needs but was fairly dense about being in tune with hers. Like I've stated earlier. I tend to placate. I do most of the housework, cooking, bill paying, I work and she was a stay at home mom for the last 11 years. I take on more work in order to get things done rather than fight about it and as long as it was appreciated I was fine. As I write I remember that she would get mad when she thought I valued others opinions more than hers (that I wasn't hearing her). I sometimes would respond to a friends feedback as if it was new when she had told me the same thing. I would guess a pattern of not listening well is there. I also didn't fight with her like an adult. I took care of too much even when she was perfectly capable of doing something. Does that make sense? Like I said: we rarely fought. Perhaps that was a bad thing.
M-44 W-44 Sons- 11&14 Married- 18 Together- 27 Separation mentioned- 9-29-14 Still together, but not "together" "if you feel rotten and forgotten, remember there'll be better days."
