jim0987 #4 - strengthening my inner cat

[jim0987]

So just trying to think about what I can control, which is me, and see if there is a better way forward.

- Ive started to assert boundaries but they need to be stronger and I expect I'm missing a few obvious ones

- I'm doing my own thing with the kids irrespective of W

- I'm trying not to pursue but I'm not sure exactly where this line is all the time

- I'm definitely trying to avoid being baited by reacting in measured but friendly tones.

- I probably need to drop words of affirmation unless it relates to parenting