So, today is my anniversary and H sent me the "today will always be important because our marriage produced our daughter. You'll always be important to me. I think it's worth acknowledging that, even if things haven't worked out as we anticipated." There is a new finality in this note. Things "haven't worked out the way we anticipated"?!?!! Do NOT over read into this! I could have written his note to you! It's totally appropriate in my opinion and pretty classy of him to admit the truth (i.e. that you are NOT where you both anticipated) AND that he'll always be grateful for the marriage b/c of your d, (if nothing else).
Why be mad at ^^^this? What more could he have said and been believable?
I urge you to go look at what I had suggested YOU write and see how close it is to what HE wrote...
Yes, because you anticipated that marriage wouldn't require any work, and I anticipated that my husband wouldn't abandon me. Major mind reading and all of it, negative. How does this help YOU?
Holy crap. I've been fine all day and now I am falling apart. Is it just wounded pride I'm feeling? I don't think so. This still feels like such a nightmare. Who is the stranger that just sent me that email? I can't even right now.
yes its' wounded pride AND FEAR....
and I see nothing "more" final in his note, (or less final for that matter.)
He sent a courteous authentic note to you on an awkward day for him...
Relax Claire, you are making this worse than it is. Seriously.
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
