I mean my H is an avoidant type. He has dropped subtle hints about "talking about the future" and taking my temperature on the R.
He, however, will not stick his neck out one bit. Too much fear of rejection, is my guess.
I think today if I said: "H, I have decided to let bygones be bygones, and I will stick with you through thick and thin til death do us part, and I will forever be happy, never mention anything you've done that hurt me, and you can enjoy all the porn you want with no comment from me", well, I think he'd be home in a flash.
Too bad that ain't gonna happen!
So what I'm saying is maybe your H was sticking his neck out a little, emotionally speaking. He did something nice. Small, but nice.
Maybe he's looking to you for some direction.
I dunno. After some time I decided in my sitch one of us had to extend the olive branch. No, not DBing 101, but being mysterious and dark was backfiring big time.
So.. I give a little here and there and sure enough, my H is warming up slowly. Still in the oven and not anywhere near edible, but at least approaching proper baking temperature.
Perhaps your H could use a tiny incentive. Nothing like pursuit, just an opening. See what he does. At the worst he'll shoot you down.
Heck. What doesn't kill you makes you stronger, right?
If you've tried all the other stuff and there's no movement for a long time, maybe try something else, is what I'm saying.
Just--a little baby step with no expectations.
---(G)GGG
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
