Ganb8te, as I said I struggled with the goals, but I did try to write some... here are a few:
- he will check in with me to see how I am - he will say he is unhappy with his life without me - he will show respect and admiration for me - he will offer to do favors for me - he will give information to me to solve a problem or question I had - he will say he is impressed with something I am doing - he will remember something I said and ask me about it
Do those help at all? I have no idea if I am on the right track.
I think you have the right idea about initiating contact. Remember that doing what works is the rule of DB. So it worked to ask him to meet up, didn't it? Maybe continue that, in a very relaxed and non-pushy way. Take your time. Maybe he will ask first!
I think it is ok to contact your H as long as you don't pressure him and just seem friendly and happy and confident.
Perhaps contacting him to be friendly and not to ask to meet would be something you could try. That's even less pursuing. Just a "hey how are you doing, I was thinking of you because I saw this X that I know you enjoy" or something like that.
How I usually try to think of "not pursuing pursuing" contact is to say something that can in no way can be construed as you wanting, needing or missing something. Friendly, confident and happy. Showing off something cool you are doing would work.
Well, those are just my random thoughts. Hope they help give you some ideas?
