Don't bring up counseling. I've never heard of any WAS saying 'that's a great idea, maybe we can work through our issues', then apply themselves and live happily ever after.
Bringing it up says you aren't validating her feelings of being done. It says you think she's the problem and if you can fix her it will all be ok. It says you're trying to control her.
Not how you mean it, just how a WAS takes it.
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
