I have decided that I can no longer wait for the W to do the divorce. My new partner, while not hounding me, has mentioned it isn't fair that she is dating a separated husband, rather than a single man. I accept that, it isn't right. We have been dating for over 9 months now. I have reached my point in life where I am comfortable to go ahead with the divorce. The W has not contacted me for around 6 months, I have seen her for nearly 8 months and she is moving to a new area with the OW at the end of our school year, mid December. As vets have mentioned many times in the forum, a piece of paper means nothing. What does mean something to me, is the standing up for myself, the improving of my life and not being left holding the rope hoping that the W doesn't divorce. Therefore I have an appointment with my solicitor this Friday to start divorce proceedings.
Do any vets have comments about how/why I should contact her to let her know this is happening. Should I just say "As a courtesy I have started divorce proceedings"? Or should I write a little bit more detailed text to her stating more? Along the lines of: I knew I lost you when......you moved out, you split assets, you moved in with the OW, you admitted the affair to your family.........now you have lost me. I still have love for you, but don't love you. I only wish the best for you and hope you find the happiness you so wanted. I have no anger or bitterness towards you.
Something along those lines.
ME:51 W:46 M:25 S:22, S:20 Divorced 16/9/15 BD 10/12 W left 12/12 with OW, affair confirmed Nov/12. Dark since 6/13 I"m in a new relationship since Feb 14.
