I haven't asked because I'm trying to honor his sandbox.
The kids asked last week and when they brought home all their luggage I asked if he'd kept any of it with him he said no because they'd packed poorly.
They have gone to school from his house one time only, and they had their lunchboxes with them when they got to his house. They live here with me. He hasn't asked to keep them through a school morning since then.
We have more than enough socks, undies, etc., for him to keep at his house, and he could have at least kept those items when they stayed last time, but he sent them back to be washed instead. Ditto with books and other toys. He doesn't want that stuff at his apartment because it's small. He did keep a pillow and one of the sleeping bags for S8.
He still has his winter clothes and a number of other personal items here. When I asked him to take them to his apartment he got angry and defensive, played the "I pay for this house card" on me, and flat out refused. I admit I caved because I am afraid to be left in the lurch.
It may be time to make some kind of legal agreement.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
