How to start rebuilding? - 2

[Hoju]

Well after being dark for so long it feels like a whirlwind all of a sudden.

I asked W if now would be a good time to split up the cats. She very politely asked if there was any way I would consider letting her keep both. She offered compensation in the form of money or to buy me a dog. I don't care about money and I'm moving to an apartment so as much as I want a dog (not that i would let her get it for me) that is completely out of the question. I love my cats and don't want to lose them too but I really don't want to hurt W.

Also something I found odd was that she asked if this was a conversation we should have in person? I don't want to meet in person, if I see her start to cry I would give her anything.

I know DB says to do things that challenge her core beliefs which awkwardly enough in my case would be to take the cat as I've always put others needs and feelings ahead of my own. That being said I'm sure that's not what was intended by 180 and if that's who I need to become to get her back, then forget it I don't want to be that person. I guess in typing this I've answered my own question