Well, I'm worrying that I was as controlling and prescriptive as Zues is describing. On the other hand... I taught them all to tie their shoes, ride their bikes, and throw a baseball. H just criticized the way I taught S8 (who struggled) but rarely (never?) did these things himself. He still talks about "watching them for me."
I want to own the problems that are mine so I know where I need to improve.
My H's father was around a lot, and during late childhood & teen years was almost the primary caregiver. He's also impatient, demanding, sort of overbearing, very gregarious, popular in their small town and extremely high profile, and a problem drinker.
Additionally my H was surrounded by a very extensive network of extended family that included a lot of men (grandfathers, uncles, his parents' childhood friends). There are plenty of involved dad role models in his background.
Last edited by Maybell; 11/03/1406:09 PM.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
