Mozza (2)

[Mozza]

Thanks GoatGal! I much appreciate that you took an interest in my sitch.

Like your W using your place for storage, having access to your flat, making unilateral decisions about the children without discussing it with you first.

I see you've done your homework! Thanks a lot. These are things that, indeed, I want to clarify with her.

Then blatantly having a R with this OM, which in itself is very disrespectful.

She's not really blatant about it. I say it's confirmed, but it's mostly through stories of the kids, who tell me how much time he spends there and that he was there in the morning when they woke up. She told them that he wakes up very early and came to their place (he's a runner, so... maybe?) To me, she hides it. There's still a slim possibility that they're just friends, just like Amelia Earhart might still be in flight somewhere above the Pacific Ocean.

You said English is not your native language, however your writing doesn't reflect this at all. Your English is perfect. Are you by any chance Italian? Because of "Mozza"? Just a guess.

Ha! I was next to a person eating cheese the first time I was asked for an online nickname.

By the way, my H had a lot of anger towards me too, about things which had nothing to do with reality. It was just his way of justifying his actions. If he could find something to be angry with me about, it would help him feel better about leaving me.

Yes, I think she might try to justify her departure and she has many things to be angry about. I'm sure on her side, it's all my fault. Also, she must be confused by my attitude because when she left, I was devastated, hugging and crying, saying it was the worst day of my life, etc. And now, all I give her are these short, factual emails. Often, I don't even respond.

I don't think she's afraid of losing me one bit though. She's still reeling from what made her go and in the tropes of this new love. She's only using me when it suits her. She was intent on being cordial through the separation, as we'll be linked forever, so I take her lunch invitations for efforts in that direction. No expectations. Patience.

Try and figure out if your W's previous complaints had merit or not. If they did, work on those things. If not, maybe work on them anyway, just in case.
For YOU.

They do have merit. My resolution is to focus more on them this week and less on her faults. That's why I'm holding back in this conversation! Another resolution was to spend less time here and more doing my stuff, so I should go! This quick stop has been just what I needed to help me deal with her emails and requests.

By the way, we have an agreement for December and she'll let me have the kids for one dinner during her long period. It's all good. She hasn't replied to my email saying I want her to get all of her stuff though...