I can relate to the "how in hades can you treat your kids that way?" This is not an excuse, however this is what I honestly believe is happening. I believe they are doing the best they can. It may not be very good, however I genuinely don't believe malice is intended. Yes, it sukks watching your children suffer (waving arms over here as I see it non stop). It's also heart breaking when they say stuff like "remember when Daddy used to be normal??"
Just reassure them of how much you love them. Yes, I do remind them that their dad loves them, however I don't defend him. The WAS either figures it out or they don't. That's really all there is.
Sending you positive thoughts:-)
3 kids BD 12/15/13 (IDKIILY. ) Rope dropped Cirque du Soleil style D final 9-9-14 "Some people are born on 3rd base and go through life thinking they hit a triple." Barry Switzer
