Thank you guys! It's amazing to get such quick and detailed responses on this forum. It's tremendously helpful to help me think.
In the end, I said I couldn't change my plans for her birthday weekend and that it didn't cross my mind that she wouldn't want the kids. For lunch, I offered Wednesday and Friday. There are things I need to discuss with her regarding the kids because it isn't working. Face to face, I believe I have more chances to get what I want. I'll put my best PMA on.
I agree that I should stand my ground and not cross my boundaries to accommodate her. At the same time, I've read sandi2 or 25yearsmlc who say that we should keep the road to a reconciliation paved, so I want her to at least understand my good intentions. She seems to have a lot of anger towards me, probably the same feeling that lead to our breakup. She felt unworthy around me and we had lots of arguments in the weeks leading to the breakup. I'm trying to lower the temperature a little.
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
