I am well-educated on the subject and very aware of how is has affected my life, his life, and our M.
He is pretty secretive about his therapy, I suspect because of the shame, but there is a component of sexual therapy going on.
It's not something we're even close to working out as a couple. He's still at the point of coming out of his denial and learning how it was a contributing factor to the demise of our marriage.
As for him being careful, well, I can't make him do anything. He already had ongoing unprotected sex with his OW and for a number of reasons that was a very, very bad idea.
He has admitted that his use had escalated and he started viewing more and more things that previously disgusted him. And then wanted to act those things out with OW, I suspect, from some things he said off the cuff.
One of the many reason why she probably dumped him.
He has essentially ruined himself for any type of loving, considerate, non-kinky lovemaking. Too boring. Too intimate emotionally...
The list is long... very long.
And I am sick and tired of having a SSM for 23 years+ because of this.
Me 54 Him 63 M 23 T 29 0 Kids Funny Farm of Rescues 12/12 OW-- 5/13 ILYBINILWY: A denied 9/13 Proof OW: ENDED 2/14 Got D papers on my BD I kicked him out for my sanity 9/14 He wants to "talk"?
