moving with confidence to success!

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Thanks guys-
Think I got my perspective back now.
yeh- have to be real careful what I say, even when getting closer.. I actually didn't say "we" or talk about my needs, but H is so skittish right now that my comment about me selling "my tv for cash" seemed to indicate to him I was assuming I wouldn't need my own tv in future I think and that's what he went off with. I actually managed to save that comment a bit- played it off more like I just needed the cash- and then he backed down a little, saying "oh-well, it's just the pack rat in him suggesting I not sell it and what would it hurt if I held onto it for another month or so?" Then, I said "yeh" So actually, maybe I can read most of it in a positive light- there's still plenty of open mind in him about what he sees for the future. But, nonetheless, I'm gonna play it super safe and not mention anything else about my doings and be vague.

H called me at work today, right when he got home from music store, to share his excitement with me about his purchase and ask if I'm coming over tonight to see it. He hadn't even opened the box yet- got home and called me right away. I said sounds cool! but I wasn't sure, call me later- I might have business to take care of. Then he talks about how at the store they remembered him, and he was gloating that "yeh, my WIFE is letting me get it" and "she said you should pack in some extras for free" So, then he scores $20 extra accessories for free too. Cute, huh.. Tells me about how cat is interested in it too and is cute. He is so attached to the cats, why even pretend he wants away from all of us... So, he's calling later tonight, and I may go over for a bit. Will update later I guess. Here's a question thought- though.. H wants to see me tonight, tomorrow night at his show, and then invited me to start moving over Thursday night. Part of me wonders should I be less available? Contact everyday I guess, since I'm moving in now, it's kind of new territory- maybe I have to come up with new ways for mystery? He seems warm when I act warm for the most part. Feel like when I am vague and act like I have "plans", he gets a little colder- like he gets suspicious. But there must be a balance point between the two. I may have done too much mystery? earlier on in my sitch, b/c H thought I was dating! And even last week he made the comment that "he doesn't trust who I'm hanging out with b/c he has no clue what I'm doing" Have already started making my own plans for going out w. friends next week, so maybe that's the way to play this now. Be around, warm, but also have "my own plans" a few nights a week. And when I am home, spend a good amount of time doing my own stuff. He pratically tells me EVERYTHING he's doing, so do I still keep up my vagueness when he is babbling brook? Maybe some, huh...

I've got him calling me twice today to see if I can come over- so maybe I do have this down right!

There IS so much good here !