1. She asked by email if we could swap her upcoming birthday week-end so that she doesn't have the kids and can go out. I made plans for that week-end back in September. I knew it was her birthday week-end but I didn't think she wouldn't want to have the kids. Now she says I should have told her when I made plans since it was an important week-end for her.
Reply idea: "I understand it's an important week-end for you. I made these plans back in September and didn't realize that I had to keep you informed for my week-end without the kids, nor that you wouldn't want to have them at that time. I didn't have them on my birth date, but I had them on my birthday week-end and made plans involving them."
2. She asked me for lunch today. I'm not available but mostly I'm not ready so I sent her a quick "I'm not available today" and she replied something along the lines: "I see you suggest no other date. This tells me that you don't want to have lunch and talk to me. Let me know if you dislike these lunches and I'll stop bothering you."
Reply idea: "I sent you a quick reply because I was on the go and knew I wasn't available today so I would free you up immediately for today. I'm willing to see you and talk to you. I'm available this week Wednesday or Friday."
Advice welcome!
M39 D6 D3 (at S) S 2014-09 D 2016-09
"You can't start a fire sitting around, crying over a broken heart" - Bruce Springsteen.
