It's his problem, except that it hurts my heart to see them cry, and it is hard to sleep when they climb into bed with me because they need to feel like I'm there for them. Which makes it harder for me to do all the other things -- keeping up my PMA, working on me, keeping the house & family running smoothly, moving forward and being my best self.
My motive in wanting him to change his behavior with them is to minimize the impact of this mess on the kids so they aren't damaged any more than is strictly unavoidable by our separation. Also I'd like to be able to sleep comfortably at night.
S8 did ask if he could live with H half time and H just said "That would be very difficult." He didn't validate missing the kids or say he wished they could spend more time together or ask if there was anything he could do to make it easier on them. He just basically said no. When I tell them he loves them their faces don't relax like they believe me. I worry they think I'm lying.
He can't come back to me as things are. The OW stuff is still hanging out there and I'm not dealing with him on a relationship level till that is GONE. I'm tired of taking the gut punch and I'm not going to take it any more. Nor am I interested in having a relationship with a man who doesn't understand the importance of fatherhood. My kids are precious to me, I want to be with someone who also values his place in their life.
Last edited by Maybell; 11/03/1403:07 PM.
Me42, H40 D12, S8, S7 A revealed: 7/13 Sep 4/14; Agreed to D 1/15
