Hey Arcola, I appreciate the comments I really do. The short version is this. W has been having continuous A's for nearly 2 years now and wants nothing but D from me. At this point my financial security is at risk and if I don't secure custody I could loose S by either becoming unemployed or taking this job out of state and W refusing to agree to let us move.
I haven't wanted to resort to D and I still don't but I don't see a lot of options if I want to keep my S. I agree I'm in for a long road and may have a difficult time finding anyone else with the challenge I have with S. But he is my S and he needs me. I wish W would come to her senses too but at this point after continuing to uncover lie after lie every so often I don't know that I could get past it any longer. I just don't see any other options.
I welcome any input though, even if it isn't in the direction I'm headed. Thanks for talking to me.
M: 43 W: 43 Married 6 yrs. T: 7 yrs. Son 20, 18, 17, 15 yrs. (w/ Autism), 12, 10