RJ2, You have such a good grasp on your H. He sounds very much like mine, although mine doesn't verbally attack me or mention OW. He is feeling the same things, though.
I really feel as if your insights are right on. Your H is trying to make the ideas his own, he is testing waters, he is afraid of being hurt, he feels inadequate. You are so good.
Keep it up, you seem to have such great insight into his reactions, go with your gut, it seems to be leading you in the right direction.
