Bright, I know how you feel, but here is the thing.
It is OK for you to be upset by their choices, but it is their choice.
What happened with my xh is that most of our friends were so shocked by his behavior that they didn't want anything much to do with him, (he was a very very mean MLCer) but one couple in particular stayed close to him. I found it difficult but tried to 'adult' about it. Hmmmm
At the time of the divorce (which went on for 2 years!) I wrote to them and said I was very fond of them but I needed to put distance between my stbx and my old life They accepted that, but as time went on and my xh's behaviour got more and more erratic they have been making real overtures to me!
I guess what I am saying is - it is OK to be upset, but we can't control what our friends want to do.
We can decide whether or not we want them in our life or not (we aren't asking them to choose, it is more about what we want)
That MLC behaviour can finally alienate even the oldest friends!!
A lot of people have a 'these things happen' approach to life, and never want to look at what is actually going on. That is their choice.
