GGG, at the risk of stating the blindingly obvious, if your h is in MLC he will not behave like a 'normal' person. And they can behave a LOT worse than GUBU.
MLC is all about them, it takes a lot of time. Some of them make no progress at all, some of them do not feel any responsibility for their partner/spouse at all.
I know it is horrible, and I know you want it to be over but he isn't actually doing it on purpose.
The line of personal responsibility and the genuine MLC is a very blurry one. Yes, we want to hold them accountable, but we also know that this crisis has been a long time coming and is probably the result of childhood issues that have never been dealt with.
It feels personal and actually it isn't. Every time we take it personally we are doing ourselves a disservice. You do not 'deserve' to be treated like this. You are right to want better, but this guy can't do that right now. His problems and issues.
