I wish there was a wand that I could wave over all the men on this site to show them the inside of a woman's heart. I think if men could see it--they would understand how easy it is to hurt a woman.
And how easy it is to heal the woman you have hurt.
Women dream of their Prince Charming. The man who will love them unconditionally. The man who will protect them without fail. The man who will be loyal to them above all others. The man who will choose them first and stand by them always.
But Prince Charming becomes a sullen little boy who gets his feelings hurt and blames her when his job doesn't work out; refuses to defend her when the mother-in-law makes a snide comment about her cooking or cleaning; wants to hang out with his buddies instead of her; and starts complaining that she is "psycho" because she gets angry when he emotionally withdraws.
It crushes her because she wants him to be her hero. But men fight so hard not to be their woman's hero.
I find it sad how often I meet men who have spent more time convincing the woman in his life why she choose wrong than convincing her why she choose right.
And, when she finally agrees with him, "Yes, you are a jerk. You don't defend me. You don't protect me. You would rather be with your friends than me." He gets hurt.
Woman are easy. They want to love. They dream of love. They are motivated by love. When they aren't in love the majority of them talk about when they will fall in love.
So if you know this about a woman...how do you deal with a woman who is walking away?
How do you break the cycle?
Love. The same love that won her heart the first time will win her heart the second time. Give her the man she thought she fell in love with the first time. Be the man she thought you were before you broke her heart.
Unconditional romantic love. If you don't give it to her--she will find it somewhere else. It's in the female culture. We want love.
And there is something amazing about being with a man who thinks you are the most wonderful person on earth. It is irresistible to woman.
