Heather, thanks for telling me that it is ok to feel angry with my friends. You said something I was afraid of saying out laud, that they in fact have been enabling H. The inside information was not a big deal until now, since they pretty much were telling me what I wanted to hear, like H has not been successful in finding his “harmonious” relationship, or that he was not happy after all. If there would be an OW, then it would have been different, and I’m pretty sure I would not want to hear about it.
Thank you for recognizing that I’m a different woman since I’ve been on this board. I know I am, just feel like I’m sliding back sometimes.
Mighty, this is absolutely despicable how your xh’s family treats you and your kids. They must be so ashamed of him. Nevertheless, they could have reached out to you. Your kids will be part for the family forever. Don’t they get it? I just can’t wait when the house of cards that your xh and ow built crumbles and crushes to the ground. I know it will.
Interesting part in all of this is that my GF (mutual friend) was hurt also when H tried to hook up with her cousin. She was hurt by her cousin’s actions too. But, I guess she forgave them, or forgot about it, or just pretending that it never happened. I don’t know.
I’ve been thinking about this friendship a lot recently. They are good friends to me. I don’t have too many friends like that. They would do a lot of things for me and I would also go extra mile to do things for them. I don’t know what the future holds. I’m going to take one day (one visit) at a time and see how I feel.
M:50 H:52 S28 (my S from previous marriage) M:17 + 3 BD: 06/12 S: 06/12 - H works in another state
