Thinking about what Card wrote on Maybell's thread about male/female friendships.
My H had at least a couple of female co-worker friends who were single (or at least, not married). He was/is fairly close with them--one-on-one lunches, etc. One of them had an affair with another married co-worker. One night, my H met up with her at a bar, very late, after he had already been out with another guy friend.
He couldn't understand why his relationship with her made me uneasy. He got so defensive. I felt like a shrew.
I was such a fool. Why am I fighting for this man or this marriage?
Even if by some chance he did NOT cheat on me, the fact that he couldn't see it from my perspective says a lot about him.
I never told anyone stories like this one, because I was too embarrassed. They would think he was treating me so poorly, and then what kind of person would I be to stay with him? Ick ick ick.
