My Wife Filed Today

[FunDad]

Wow, more great feedback. Thank you! Today has been interesting. She sprang her foot. I dropped a drink by the clinic for her while she waiting at the Dr. My son drove her so she would not have to. She was appreciative of the drink (I know her favorites).

I see your point on the wheelchair solution. I've always got the fix-it hat close by, unfortunately. However, in the past when she broke her ankle, we used a wheel chair to get her around the house.

Apparently her foodstamp card quit working and she has not enough money for food. She went to the store, and had to leave the cart. I saw the food situation earlier today and they have food. I did offer to take some groceries over for her. No response on that, so I will take some basics for her.

I offered to help get kids to bed to which she said:
"No. Thanks." (Actually this would be a new practice, I normally pray with them when I'm there at night but I don't normally help with getting them to bed).

Escalation vs. Expression - It's Escalation. This is normal for us. Rarely are expressive (unless I'm missing it).

Eliminating Drama - I considered asking MIL where she went, and express my concearn about the situation. This only would have made things worse. Instead, MIL contacted me, and expressed her concearn. I actually helped calm the situation by reassuring her kids were ok and in good hands, reducing Drama.

So I just tried your suggestion (at the end):

W: S10 is being a brat as is D12. I'm injured and pissed off that I had to ducking come get them.

m: Hmm...How can I help with that?

W: No idea I need to go to freaking bed and you got kids so late... I need to get several into showers.

m: I can have D7 & D8 back about 7:30. S14 wants to stay with me till morning. Would it help for me to Hang out and help w/bedtime?

W: No. Thanks.

M: Well, I'm worried about that foot. <waiting for response>

P.S.
Clarification: She lined up a baby sitter for kids when I dropped them off. It was someone I don't know, but the kids know her. She actually did a great job during the week and her and I got along just fine. My wife did leave my number for her.