Hey S. A couple of things. You cannot rush this journey and you dont want to. Each and every step of it is important. You can, however, impede it by not letting go.
Dont get me wrong, it takes time to let go. But the sooner you do, the sooner you get moving for real.
So, here's what I know. I know that I allowed my h to determine my worth. Wasnt his fault I did that. It was mine. I hadnt learned yet that I get to determine it. No one else.
I learned that my mother and my h's opinion of me was wrong. I get why they saw it the way they did. It was because they were broken. They put on me how they felt about themselves.
It wasnt until I decided that I was no longer going to continue to give all my power to my h, that I started to grow.
He doesnt get to have it, S. Take it back. It's yours.
I felt really unlovable and unworthy. Then I didnt. I worked really hard to get to that point.
Here's some of what I did. I watched how people reacted to me.I saw that they liked being around me. I decided that when someone said something nice to me or about me, I was going to believe it. I didnt at first, but, I learned to.
I stopped the voices of my mother and my h in my head. I literally would say the word stop if I started to get back into stinking thinking.
My h's view of me was his, and it didnt make it true. It was his opinion and I didnt have to believe it any longer because he was wrong.
I knew he was because I looked inside.
Tell me some things about you that are positive. They could be anything. Large or small.
