Warming day by day- I have found the sweet spot- DB, and beyond DB even... "As if" has taken me all the way!

Spent the whole afternoon with H. Went over to apt for bed delivery, and had a great time. H opens the door in his underwear again(comfort level!)- I got the keys for apt(since I'm moving in very soon) We watched movies, and H showed me more guitar. Eyes sparkling when he was telling me stuff about movie or guitar or music... Flirting, joking between us--lots of bonding with the cat and how cute the cat is.. H has claimed the cat's attention again, and he and cat like to "gang up on me" just like old playful times.. At one point H grabbed my butt playfully, too -hehee! More "us" talk and future "our life" talk. H talking as if the cats were gonna be part of his house/life for a long time(before I was taking the cats and H was moving out of state on his own)"We have to get the cats claws trimmed eventually, so they don't jump on us and claw his new tattoo when he gets it(this is like late summer-early fall)" H is so in love with his fave cat- did he really think he didn't want his "family" back? LOL. H made comments about shared property(everything has been 'split' the last few mo!) Friends couch is over at the apt. "We have to be careful with it, it's not 'our' couch" H and his friend will move the bed up into the room for me.

Got a husband/bf comment again.. H was mad he didn't get the right burger- and I ended up going to get another one, since I had to run out to gas station.. H tells me to tell them that "my HUSBAND or BOYFRIEND or whatever I want to call him- is mad he didn't get his order right" H got mad/irritated nitpicking at me a few other times about silly stuff during the afternoon, but everytime I acted amazing, sweet/smiling/validating and then he softened after and it blew over, and H was nice and flirty again. Frankly, I think this is indicitive of his growing closeness/comfort level with me- he can get mad and be himself(holds this back around other people)- this was the old H a lot in the past, lol. Had a breakthrough point w. H when he thought I was giving him permission to do something- he doesn't need permission to do things now(all I said was "ok" to him going to the store) Told him I never have meant it that way- when I say "ok" it just means "cool". Don't want to control him, totally not..no way man! After that he seemed to perk up more. I keep busting down these false anti-M bricks one by one!!!! Think H is in testing mode, for sure and I am coming thru with flying colors! Made a point of respecting H's way of doing little things and asking him before I use things or move things of his. This is huge because in the past, H would be mad about sharing or not knowing where his stuff went to.. that is part of what he likes about his own place.. H made some comments about him on his own, silly things he liked about being alone("liked not being suprised by seeing another person on the couch when he got back from store" or screw everyone he's leaving(when he was mad)- but there were just as many comments about "us", so I really see it as the discontent coming out which then gradually releases and blows away!

Told H second cat isn't eating since the first one has left-- he said "oh move her over soon then!" happily.. So, in a day or two, I will be taking the other cat over.
Oh, and the second best part-- when I was leaving, H walked me out the door and halfway to my car- the whole time watching me with that "dating"/interested look as we said goodbye-- "bye, catch you later, call me, I'll call you. Am I good at being the new, exciting me or what!?!!

Last edited by rj2; 03/21/04 03:33 AM.
Master the self-fulfilling prophecy.. Act 'as if' it's going to happen and make it be!!