moving with confidence to success!

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More MAJOR steps! Easing into this in style, in the homestretch... sure thing. WOW- These interactions are just like old times, even better.

Ok, I called H last night to arrange for when I could have my new king sized bed dropped off at his apt We chatted shortly and agreed this weekend.

Then H calls me tonight... acts sort of 'cautious'(like that cat in a new house coming around!) Says he was checking to see if I am moving in for sure? He thought I was still thinking about it, didn't know?(heehe!) Then, he says well.. um.. if you are can the cats come back soon then? First he says this weekend, then he can't wait and says he's home tonight and can I come over in an hour to move the one cat back in!(We have 2 cats) If, I want...he'd really like? Because he really misses his Iko and has been sleeping with a towel he's so lonely(backstory, H and one of our cats, Iko have been like soulmates-- so close and cute that they gang up on me and frolic and play tricks- H has never had any buddy he feels such a strong connection to, it's like these 2 were made for each other) So, the defense cracks bigtime with the H/cat reunion!! H admits his bunk bed will not do for him and "the cat"... "Cat" will not want to climb up there and cuddle, "cat" needs regular bed! (YEs, H has wanted that king bed forever-hmm, it's gonna be in "my" room as of SATurday!) I go over there,stay for 2hrs- and H is really happy, super warm- makes lots of "WE" comments about how we can rearrange place with some of my furniture... how he wants us to buy a new dvd rack, all this stuff. He shows me more guitar stuff, plays his new song for me and then all about a new computer game he got. The cat takes like 20 min to get adjusted and feel like he's back home!(after being gone 5 mo.) H and the cat are kissing each other and playing their hide and seek games... H is so connected immediately(he has been putting up such a FRONT this whole time), just like that(H has been "detaching" from the cats these last 5 months, so this is HUGE and symbolic that he is 'reattaching' right now) H makes lots of comments through the cat- H jokes and teases with me... H says "yeh, cat is HOME now" I make joke about how I'm forever not gonna get hugs from cat now that his favorite buddy H is around again and H agrees(forever I will have to share cat!) At one point, H gives me lecture about how not to use my martial arts in the wrong way(critical old H rearing up again) I handle it in a new marvelous way! I smiled, agreed on his points and even thanked him -the old me would've been upset, mad, insulted) Think I really suprised and pleased him when I THANKED him for pointing out my mistakes!!! Watch out H, new amazing W is here!

This is even better.. H said he dreamed last night about the cat- Cat and H connected and the cat asked H if he could come home now.. That is why H especially knew this is time.

Is it even gonna take me much past moving in to fully "officially" reconcile!!! Am on guard for daggers, but I am prepared with PMA and validation..

H asked me to stop over tomorrow before work with the cat's scratching post and some of my colored pencils for H to use(back into sharing stuff again- this is another step!)

So, no daggers, major emotions/ family bonding moments, "we" talk from H, sharing our stuff comments, and future references! This keeps getting better and better!